Steve life coach, I am here to help.

The other day I was at my mother and Father in laws and noted that one of the kids was in need of direction. I started to think to myself " This kid needs HELP I think I am going to become her life coach".

Now in order for my plan to work I need the full attention of the "client" . Well let me tell you this kid is one hard nut to crack. She will not shower, change her clothing, or clean her room.

I started my task by telling her to change her pants and shirts when they were covered in a brown substance that I still can't identify. I thought that she would be receptive to my observation and go and change. What I found was the opposite. The "Client" stated 'oh, okay' and proceded to go out covered in this unknown brown substance.

A few days later my "client" returned from school and looked like she was in need of a shower and a change of clothing. At that time Steve the life coach went to work saying "I think that you need a shower and perhaps a change of clothing." Although my client sat and looked at me like I was nuts for about half an hour I was able to have her go and clean up.

Now I have only been doing this gig for about a month and I am finding it hard to break this kid. I have to say that this "client" is one of the oddest people I have ever met. Perhaps I am going to have to take this one to the next level in the life coaching continuum.

In fact if I am able to change this "client" I may have found another calling.

Frustration Vented...

I have come to realize there are some jobs that pick the person not the other way around. For instance my current partner.

In my line of work you have to be on the ball from the time you start work until the time you shut off the car and hang up the keys. My partner seems to have missed that part of the class. In fact I think that he was sleeping during every class at school.

I have also found that I have little time for his lack of knowledge in many areas of our job. On many occasions I have asked him questions such as " Okay what are we going to do when we get to this call?" and I am met with a response of " I am not sure, I am going to have to look at you for this one".

Now in the last three weeks I have produced more work and created more files than anyone else on my squad. I try to get him involved with these files, train him further and teach him, but with his lack of knowledge he just isn't there. Although he's been trained, he still just doesn't seem to get it.

I know that this may seem harsh and unfair, but I have good reason to feel so strongly. Every working day I depend on my partner to be there when I need him/her. I rely on them to know the law whether it be a bylaw or a criminal code offence. I need my partner to be a quick thinker who is able to digest information and act on that information within seconds if needed. I am in a hard place because I love to go to work and have a good time, but when I feel like my partner thinks that he is on an episode of 'Cops,' it is hard to relax and have a good time. I have a duty to my wife and family to come home at the end of each and every shift.

My challenge now is to find a way to let him come to the conclusion on his own that he needs to find a new line of work. Not only does he not get it, he is just not safe to work with.

What is important

Over the past few years I've had a number of changes in my life that have made me realize what is important. Only three years ago I could go out and do what I wanted, and answered to no one but me.

Now I am married with one great baby girl. This has added a level of responsibility to my life that I have never known.

Do I miss the life I had? Sure I do, but I would not change anything about my life. I have a great wife who I love, and yes she is my best friend. I have a great baby girl who can be a pain at times, but when she smiles it just melts my heart.

I have a great job that I love and for that I am lucky. My job allows my wife to stay home and raise our little one, although at times it seems like we have no money. This too is an odd feeling. I am used to having money and being able to go out and have a good time. But all I have to do is ask what is important.

If I had to choose the life I had three years ago or the life I have now? Without a thought I would take the life I have now.

I have the best job in the world, the best wife in the world, and the best baby in the world.

My family is the most important thing in my life and I would not change it for the world.